Showers of Love
John, a book seller and Event Coordinator, met Matt, a High School History Teacher, at the Dance Club, Rich’s in 2002. Matt lived in College Station and drove down to Houston with his college friend to go to his first gay bar. As fate would have it, this is the night he met John. John didn’t intend on going out that night. He had planned to have a movie night with his friends, but instead an old friend convinced him otherwise and they went out. John and Matt met on the dance floor that night and hit it off. Suddenly, it was 2am and the four of them ended up at House of Pies. From that night on for 2 years of their relationship, they drove back and forth between Houston and College Station. Matt graduated from Texas A&M and then moved to Houston to be with John.
On the day they got engaged, Matt was glued to “scotusblog.com,” waiting for the announcement of the Obergefell decision. After hearing the good news, he grabbed John’s ring off of the kitchen counter, raced downstairs, and tearfully pop the question. “Wait, what was the Supreme Court’s decision?” John asked. Matt, still on one knee, said, “Um, I kinda need an answer to my question…” What a perfect way to get engaged! While they were searching for a location to have their wedding, many places were already booked for their date. They were planning to have their wedding in three-months time. They finally decided on Station 3 in Houston, which was once a fire station that was converted to an event venue. They knew the exposed brick and the great staff were the perfect fit for the aesthetic they were going for. And there was an added bonus— they could slide down the fireman’s pole to get downstairs after the meal. “Two guys sliding down a pole is the perfect entrance to start the dancing portion of the evening” [Figure out who to attribute this quote to]
The couple had their wedding day on the thirteenth anniversary of the day they met. Matt wore a charcoal suit from Men’s Wearhouse and John wore a dark grey suit from Jos. A. Bank. They had a small 2-tier butting cake from SWEET bakery and two types of cupcakes, which were chocolate and salted caramel. For the wedding toppers, John made two custom Funko Pop figures that looked like both of them. Each table was themed as a city they grew up in, or one that they had visited. Since they spent 13 years together, there were thousands of photos taken in a variety of places, many of them included the very people they invited to the wedding! They had suitcases as centerpieces with photos in them. These suitcases were specific to the people sitting at the table because, inside, there were photos of them with John and Matt on various different adventures. The tail-end of Hurricane Patricia crashed their wedding the night before the big day and Houston flooded. Their venue was close to White Oak Bayou. They kept getting updates from friends who couldn’t fly into Houston due to the weather and the venue almost had to cancel the wedding! It was all very nerve-racking. Despite all of this, their families were already in town along with the wedding party and officiant and, at the very least, they had their loved ones to be there with them when they were married. The day turned out lovely and exceptionally wet.
Because they had to wait so long to get hitched, they took two honeymoons. They immediately spent 4 days at Disney World because they didn’t want to go back to work right away. The official honeymoon was spent in Italy where they explored Rome, Florence, and Venice.
By Jade Lewis
Photographer: Thomas G. Campbell
Google Docs! Setting up a joint email address with Google allowed both of us to access vendor emails on our phones. We also used Google’s online apps to create a spreadsheet to track expenses (and paying everything off). There were lists of questions to ask vendors, lists of people we invited, as well as their RSVPs and any gifts received. Having this all on Google Docs helped both of us stay on the same page. When both people in the couple are handling different aspects of the wedding, having one central place to keep all the relevant information was a godsend. John could update the budget at work while Matt was getting info from the coordinator.
Another tip is not to get too bogged down in tradition. The wedding should reflect who you are as a couple. If there’s something you don’t feel strongly about, don’t do it. We went simple on the cake and flowers so we could spend extra money on the photographer and venue— two things we had really strong feelings about.