Always Make True Love Part of the Plan
By Sondra Sneed – True Love Spiritual Advice Columnist
1 DO WHAT YOU LOVE:
To find all the love you can muster in your plans, make decisions on this one principle, “if you don’t love it, it won’t work.” So at each point of a decision ask yourself, “Do I love it? Does he love it?” No? Then the answer is no.
2 DO WHAT IS HARD:
When you have to decide whom to invite and there are those whom you think will be disruptive (but if you don’t invite them the pain you will inflict will be irreparable), then though it is hard, invite them in kindness anyway.
3 DO WHAT IS HEAVENLY:
Invite the children to do what they will love in the ceremony. Children are always a kind reminder of our innocent nature. When they are part of a wedding ceremony, their precious way instills memories of your wedding in everyone’s heart.
- Let them lead the wedding procession with flower petals
- Let them lead the congregation in a love song
- Let them sing a love song
This will give everyone a feeling of joy, and a precious memory of that good feeling. It will also make hearts receptive to the vows you share later on.
4 DO WHAT IS RIGHT:
Whenever you have to make a decision that has a wrong feeling about it, do the opposite.
5 MAKE AN IMPACT ON HOW PEOPLE FEEL GOOD:
Although your wedding is a celebration for the two of you, making it important as to how others experience your wedding will exponentially impact your memory of the day. Consider special experiences your guests can have at the ceremony and/or reception that doesn’t involve drinking to feel good.
6 MAKE AN IMPACT ON HOW YOU FEEL:
Whenever there are those who are involved with someone else, and that “someone” is a dark cloud over every experience they are involved in, this is the person you have to avoid no matter what it takes to avoid them. Avoid thinking about them, worrying about them, confronting them, or experiencing them in any way at all.
7 MAKE AN IMPACT ON HOW YOU LOVE EACH OTHER:
Although wedding vows are a perfect way to make this spiritual wedding plan come true, there are other ways to especially appreciate each other, also. These are just a few.
- Give each other permission to be absent
- Give each other a reason to be present
- Give the other the reason you need them, if insecurity is your reason, that’s not enough
- Give each other your strength
- Give each other your compassion
- Give each other your feeling wise and strong
- Give each other your experience of the other’s love
- Give love even when the other hurts your ego
- Give forgiveness
- Give the information that allows them to forgive you
8 NEVER LET DISAPPOINTMENT GUIDE:
If you have been let down by a wedding vendor, family member, or even your beloved, don’t let that determine your decisions. Make your decisions based solely on need.
9 NEVER MAKE YOURSELF THE LOSER:
If you let others win simply because you hate conflict, you’ll be at the wrong end of every argument. Staying strong on principle always wins. Even if you can’t be right because someone’s right was stronger, you’re at least sure. Sure can “let it go” and let them find out. Right without principle can never say that.
10 NEVER MAKE YOURSELF THE ONLY ONE WHO GAINS:
If your right is more important to you than everyone else’s happiness, you will enforce a dark cloud over everyone else’s experience.
11 MANAGE FROM A BIRDS-EYE-VIEW:
Managing anything means you have to see the beginning, middle, and end. If you only see one of those three, you’ll never manage the process, merely control it. Control without management is just plain stupid.
12 LOVE FROM A HEART’S-EYE-VIEW:
Loving with conditions isn’t really love. Love requires no conditions to be. This doesn’t mean you can’t get frustrated, irritated, and up in arms about the small things sometimes, but it does mean once you’ve calmed down you apologize and experience their need to call you out on your stupidity. Love releases anxiety because love begins with the self. “I love me enough to let you tell me how wrong I was.”
SONDRA SNEED IS A SOURCE COMMUNICATOR, SOUL READER, AND GODSCRIBE. SHE CONVERSES WITH UNIVERSAL CONSCIOUSNESS FOR DEEP, SOULFUL INFORMATION AND IS WORKING ON HER SECOND BOOK, LOVE’S HIGHWAY; WHERE WILL IT TAKE YOU WHEN YOU CAN’T GET THERE ALONE. FIND HER AT GODSCRIBE.COM
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